My Dad died at home on December 24, 2006 shortly after being
diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Mom carried on with cheerful determination
for a little over eight years until her passing on January 12 of this year.
Naturally, I miss Mom and Dad greatly, as many of you miss your parents this
Christmas, and I will remember mine today with a true Christmas story Mom told
us when I was a child.
My Dad was drafted into the US Army after Pearl Harbor. He
thought his flat feet would disqualify him medically but he was pleased when he
passed the physical. Dad, who was a math whiz, had dreamt of being a West Point
grad but he narrowly missed winning an academic competition for the places
allotted to one of Alabama’s US Senators. Instead, Dad attended Auburn and
earned his degree in Education, the least expensive course of studies offered,
as his family couldn’t afford to pay the tuition for the School of Engineering.
It all worked out, however, as he got a job teaching math at Coffee High in
Florence, Alabama and met my Mom who was teaching Home Ec. They were married at
the end of his first year at Coffee on June 15, 1941. The Japanese surprise
attack came less than six months later on December 7.
Dad’s military career was rather complicated. Leaving out
myriad details irrelevant to this story, Dad was sent to Officer Candidate
School (OCS) and came out a Second Lieutenant, though not without a few misadventures.
He opted to join the Quartermaster division of the Army Air Corp (later the US
Air Force), which trained him and sent him around the country to a series of
posts ranging from Atlanta, Georgia to Russell, Kansas and points in between.
Military policy allowed my Mom to accompany him on his travels and live in the
officers’ quarters of the various bases. However, after a number of false
alarms, Dad finally received orders in late 1943 for an assignment that was
remote, obscure and safe (as long as the troop ship he sailed on didn’t get
sunk by a submarine) in, of all places, India. (I must mention here that my
Uncle Alfred Scott, his only sibling, by complete coincidence, also was sent to
India, where he and my Dad were occasionally able to get together and play
tennis).
It was getting close to Christmas when the wives of the
officers who were shipping out packed up to return to their homes for the
duration of the war. All of them were worried, and justifiably so, about their
husbands getting back alive and whole. My Mom and a group of her friends met at
a café to share a meal prior to departing. As Mom described it to me, someone
went over to the jukebox and the song that came up was Bing Crosby’s “I’ll be
home for Christmas.” As you can imagine, every one of the officers’ wives burst
into tears. Mom told this with a smile, which would not have been the case, I’m
sure, had my Dad not been one of the fortunate ones who came home unscathed.
Of course, without Dad’s safe return, I wouldn’t be here to
tell Mom’s story and all the ones that followed, a host of small, personal
events of little significance to anyone but our family. Children grow up and
leave the nest but the imprint of home on the heart is indelible. The meaning
of Christmas changes with the pitiless advance of time but in the deepest
reaches of the psyche something pure and simple remains, even when all that’s
left are two surviving siblings and a modest house rich in stories whose days
in the family are surely numbered. It’s December 25 and as long as memory holds
steadfast,