A message to Steve Marshall

You do project a movie star image. Consider how heads turn when you walk into a party dolled up and wearing a great outfit and how Vernon immediately decided he wanted to marry you. True, everyone's looks change with age, and one can't stay young forever. Everyone has to come to terms with it, but you're a long way from looking old and losing that impact. You have time to become reconciled to the reality of aging, which isn't only loss- acquiring wisdom leads to comfort and acceptance ("Blessed are those who mourn...").

 I told you about my grad school prof who shared that when he saw a family bringing their daughter for a campus visit, he found himself drawn to look at the mother. I have female friends my age who are still beautiful and sexy. But underneath the image you project is a person of substance and complexity. Men fall in love with the image, not the person.